Student Support Services
November 18, 2025 – Edition 15
Supporting Your Young Person Through Social Media Changes
The upcoming changes to social media use for under 16 year olds may be challenging for young people and for parents too. While some students will adjust easily, for others and their parents, different emotions may be experienced. This change creates opportunities for students to develop new routines and ways of connecting.
You may notice a range of emotions from your young person after the changes come into effect. Some students may express anger or frustration, boredom or restlessness, stress or temper tantrums. Others may be relieved that the bans are in place as they no longer feel the need to keep up with notifications and the constant barrage of communication through their usual apps.
These are all normal reactions to change, and it is helpful to talk to your young person and ask them why they feel this way. It may be because they are experiencing Fear of missing out (FOMO). You can then reassure them that the ban applies to all young people under 16 years of age. Some students may be unsure about how to communicate with friends, and you can encourage them to talk on the phone rather than replacing one app with another. Students who have been using social media for many years may experience biochemical withdrawal as they are no longer receiving the regular release of dopamine triggered by likes and responses.
Once you know the reason, you can address it together. As tempting as it may be, try to avoid replacing social media with another screen based habit (extra gaming, Roblox, Netflix) or overloading your child with too many new activities or tutoring sessions. Work together to develop a balanced, age appropriate routine. For Senior School students, the plan can include guilt free time after completing homework and study. This time can be used for dopamine boosting activities to lift mood and motivation.
Dopamine boosting activities can be as small as spending time outside in the sun. Many students enjoy a walk after school, perhaps walking the dog while listening to music. For younger students, walking with a family member can build bonds and provide one on one time for conversation. Apps for mindfulness such as Smiling Mind or Calm, exercise, music, drawing and doing things for others can all contribute to dopamine release and the feeling of reward once gained from social media apps.
If your young person does find the transition period difficult, try to be patient and be consistent in your messaging. Change can take time, so please be kind to yourself. If you are concerned about your young person’s mental health, please reach out for support. Your school counsellors and the wider wellbeing team are here to help.
Mandy Barr, Sarah Quin and Joanne Devota Rando
School Counsellors
